How to say no to being a bridesmaid!

I was recently interviewed for InStyle Magazine, on how to use communication skills that I regularly teach couples, to say no to being a bridesmaid! "...relationship coach Krystal Woodbridge agrees with me, that you can say no and keep your relationship intact. It’s all about how you pitch it and how you follow up. Here’s [...]

When is relationship advice unhelpful?

When is relationship advice unhelpful? I ask this question because recently, I saw a couple who had so much advice coming from outside of the relationship, they were completely stalled by it. Like many couples who come to see me for Relationship Coaching, Kim*, 39, and Julie*, 36, had been having problems in their relationship. [...]

Considering Relationship Coaching? Then this is ESSENTIAL.

We can all get to a point in our relationships that no matter how hard we try, we just can't seem to resolve our issues on our own. It can feel incredibly frustrating, and at this point we often turn to experts for help and guidance. If you have issues in your relationship, and are [...]

Are you struggling with conflict in your relationship?

If you've been struggling with conflict in your relationship recently, like lots of couples, you can get to a point where you just stop bringing up/talking about your issues. You're just so tired, exhausted even, and can't just keep having the same argument, stuck in the same loop, over and over again, with no resolution. Of [...]

The perfect imperfect

Go outside now, and find the perfect leaf. One with no discolouration, no marks, no curled edges. Then go and find the perfect flower - all its petals intact, no wilting. Then go and find a feather, with all it's hairs intact, untainted by mud or dirt. If you found this task difficult, or near [...]

Re-routing the River: Jessica and Steve’s Story: Part Three

Sometimes, when you're dissatisfied with your relationship, you want changes to be made quickly. But what if you're being unrealistic? What if you're being unfair to your partner? What if you need to adjust your expectations? Positive change in your relationship is absolutely possible - but lasting change takes time, work and commitment. In this [...]

Re-routing the River: Jessica and Steve’s Story: Part Two

Sometimes, when you're dissatisfied with your relationship, you want changes to be made quickly. But what if you're being unrealistic? What if you're being unfair to your partner? What if you need to adjust your expectations? Positive change in your relationship is absolutely possible - but lasting change takes time, work and commitment. In this [...]

Say how you REALLY feel!

This week, I've been talking about how difficult it can be for couples to be really honest with each other about how they feel. Bottling feelings up can lead to all sorts of problems in your relationship. Whereas being able to speak honestly with your partner can actually bring you closer together. BUT......to prevent conflict [...]

Why you’re not being honest with each other

In the last blog post, I wrote about how couples often withhold their true feelings from each other, letting hurt, anger and resentment build up until it starts to cause real issues in the relationship. I also asked a series of questions, designed to help you to really reflect on how honest you are with [...]

Do you tell your partner how you REALLY feel?

  "I had no idea you felt like that!" "Really? You thought that??" "Why didn't you say so?" These are all things that I often hear couples say to each other during my Relationship Coaching couples sessions. A common observation I  make during these sessions is that at some point, one or both partners will be [...]