Couples: is this why you’re not talking to each other?

I have to admit, sometimes I just don’t feel motivated.

Sometimes I feel tired, uninspired, doubtful, unconfident, and frustrated.

I have an overwhelming urge to share my message with you every single day, Most of the time it just flows from me. The message that we can learn so much about ourselves and our relationships through Nature. That if we follow Nature’s example, we can learn how to have harmonious, joyful relationships with greater intimacy and deeper connection. That spending time in Nature has the most amazing health benefits which will in turn have such a positive impact on the health of your relationship.

I spend so much time in Nature myself, admiring its beauty and simplicity and energy, that usually I cannot fail to be inspired by it; to listen to it and observe it, to experience it, and then consistently share its’ message with you in the form of Relationship Coaching.

But sometimes I feel blocked. Sometimes I am so awed by the enormity and complexity and power in Nature that it feels as though I can’t find the words to say what I want to say. Sometimes my mission feels so hugely important that it can seem overwhelming, and I fear that I won’t be able to to do it justice. And that my message won’t reach you in the way I want it to. I wonder if I am up to the job.

I encourage couples to spend time on their relationship every day – communicating, reconnecting, spending time in Nature. I tell them that a relationship should be treated like a beautiful garden that you want to spend time in. To enjoy spending time in it, admiring it, basking in its light, smelling the gorgeous scents and listening to its rhythm, you need to tend to it. It needs maintenance so that it stays untangled, clear, watered and looked after. Nourished and nurtured so that it can grow and transform in a healthy way.

One of the ways to tend to and maintain your relationship is through effective and compassionate communication. If you are in a relationship, you need to commit to making time for this, every, single day.

And yet, many couples I coach struggle with the motivation to do this, finding all sorts of excuses or reasons not to do it. “We haven’t had time”, “I was unwell”, “Work has been manic” and so on. And often the reasons are perfectly valid. The honest truth is, if something is that important to you, you will make the time for it.

But sometimes you will feel blocked. Sometimes you will feel so awed by the enormity and complexity and power of communication that it will feels as though you can’t find the words to say what you want to say. Sometimes, communicating what you want to say to your partner feels so hugely important, that it can seem overwhelming, and you fear that you won’t be able to to do it justice. And that your message won’t reach your partner in the way you want it to. You wonder if you are up to the task.

And so the excuses and reasons not to do it are allowed to take over. And you don’t do it.

But one thing I can tell you from my own experience, is that consistency is key.

Regardless of how I feel, I get up at 5am every day, go for my daily walk in Nature, write my daily blog post, record my daily Facebook Livestream, share my pictures taken in Nature, and get my message out to you in whatever way that I can REGARDLESS of self-doubt, or whether I feel overwhelmed by the task. Because I think the message is so important that I cannot afford not to send it to you. If I can just reach one person somewhere out there in the world with one simple thought or connection that they might not have had otherwise, then it was all worth it.

Only recently someone said, after downloading my Communication Guide for Couples, “Thank you for bringing the joy back to my life”. It made my week. Sometimes I will reach people that I never know about, and that’s perfectly fine too. What’s important is that I keep on trying to reach people.

And I choose to move through the blocks, and find my way back to inspiration.

So regardless of how you feel, put the time in to your relationship, spend time together in Nature in any way you can, communicate with each other, regardless of self doubt or whether you feel overwhelmed by th etask. Because the messages that you and your partner have for each other are too important to not share these with each other. If you can reach your partner with just one simple thought or connection that you might not have made otherwise, then it was all worth it. What is important is that you keep trying to reach each other.

And the good news? If you choose to move through the blocks in your communication, you will find your way back to each other.

So remember, maintain your relationship to watch it thrive!

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P.S. If you would like my help with HOW to communicate effectively with your partner, I would be delighted for you to download my FREE Communication Guide for Couples, which gives you the key communication skills and principles you need. And why not sign up for my Newsletter which is packed full of helpful relationship advice and tips.

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2 Comments

  1. Gloria 9th July 2016 at 3:01 pm - Reply

    I love the metaphor about the garden. I’m carrying that with me.

    • Krystal Woodbridge 21st July 2016 at 8:51 am - Reply

      So glad to hear that Gloria!

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