At this time of year, it’s a pleasure to see all of the spring flowers start to emerge. After a long, cold, grey winter, how lovely to see splashes of yellow and purple pop-up in my back garden, a direct result of the bulbs I planted only two weeks ago!
It always reminds me of what a joy it is for me as a Relationship Coach, to witness couples enjoying the colourful abundance they experience when the work they put into their relationships pays off.
When couples first come to see me for relationship coaching, I always start by asking them about the type of relationship they want. A vital part of this process is for the couple to decide what “seed” or “bulb” they want to create, and then plant.
Examples include: –
- Better communication
- Time for each other
The focus is mainly on what the couple would like more of. Not on what they want less of.
Because we are focusing on growth, not decay.
Of course, old wounds sometimes need to be healed in order for us to move on. Relationship Coaching can certainly help with that.
But to improve your relationship and really move on, there comes a point when you need to move forward and look to the future.
From winter, spring always emerges eventually.
This shifts the focus and put it in a positive framework.
It’s far more motivating to focus on something pleasant.
So try thinking about what you would like more in your relationship, and decide on the type of “seed” or “bulb” you and your partner would like to plant in order to make that a reality. You might choose one from the list above, or create your own.
Decide what tools you already have, and which are missing and that you need, in order to plant it.
How are you going to get those tools? What do you need to learn?
Do you need expert advice? Do you need further guidance?
If so, don’t be afraid to ask for it!
Sometimes that’s exactly what we need to be able to move the dirt aside. To dig deep. To bury that seed and surround it with the specific nutrients and water it needs to flourish.
- Do you and your partner have difficulty in understanding what your relationship needs in order to thrive?
- Or perhaps you both know what your relationship needs, but are unsure how to cultivate it?
- Perhaps you feel you lack the tools, or understanding of how to make it a reality?
If so, relationship coaching can provide just the right guidance on how to make your dreams a reality.
There are so many ways I can help you to do this, and I would be delighted to discuss your relationship needs with you, without obligation.
Simply contact me by clicking on the link below.