The Wind and the Sun were disputing which was the stronger. Suddenly they saw a traveller coming down the road, and the Sun said: “I see a way to decide our dispute. Whichever of us can cause that traveller to take off his cloak shall be regarded as the stronger You begin.” So the Sun retired behind a cloud, and the Wind began to blow as hard as it could upon the traveller. But the harder he blew the more closely did the traveller wrap his cloak round him, till at last the Wind had to give up in despair. Then the Sun came out and shone in all his glory upon the traveller, who soon found it too hot to walk with his cloak on.
Fable, 6th Century BC.
This fable is a lovely way of explaining that kindness and a warmth will get you further than force and insistence. The more you push your partner, make demands, and insist they come round to your way of thinking, the more they will dig their heels in. But if you approach your partner with warmth, kindness and affection, the more likely they are to hear you and take on board what you’re saying.
So, next time you want to discuss something important with your partner, remember – be the Sun.
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