In general, it’s important for us to feel as though we’re good at something, that we’re able to achieve the things that are important to us. If we don’t have this, we can feel as though something’s lacking. So as individuals, it’s important that we feel that we’re achieving in at least one area of our lives – such as children, work, hobbies.
But what about our romantic relationships?
Well, it’s just as important to feel we’re achieving there as well. because when we don’t we have a sense of failure, disappointment, and stress.
For example, are you regularly able to achieve effective communication? Are you able to overcome obstacles with your partner successfully? Do you feel your relationship is on the right track? Do you feel that you’re achieving in helping your partner to be happy?
On the other hand, are you so driven to try to make everything “perfect” in your relationship (and in other areas of your life), you can end up feeling burnt-out. The result of that is that you have even less time and energy for your partner.
Try reflecting on your relationship achievements by asking yourself the following questions:-
- Are you able to achieve what you want in you relationship?
- What does a successful relationship look like to you?
- Does your partner have the same ideas as you about what a successful relationship looks like?
- What areas in your relationship would benefit from extra attention?
- Do you feel you are achieving enough in areas outside of your relationship?
Reflecting in this way, and deciding what you want from your relationship, is the first step to achieving just that.
After all, how can you have a successful relationship if you don’t know what it is you want to achieve?
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