I have always been fascinated by the moon. How its cycle length matches a woman’s. How, when I was nursing in hospitals, patients’ behaviour would often change and become erratic during a full moon (this is true, ask any nurse!). The moon seems to have such influence over us. And if the moon controls the tides, when you consider that us humans are made up of 60% water, perhaps it’s unsurprising that it would influence us so strongly.
Tonight is a full moon, which signals the completion of another lunar cycle. And I’ve been reflecting on what we can learn from the moon about completion in our relationships.
The whole of nature is based on cycles. There is a sense of immense satisfaction when we complete a cycle because in Nature, there is no choice. The moon must complete its cycle, just like the seasons must complete theirs. And in the case of a full moon, completion of the cycle is bright, brilliant, illuminating and guiding.
But in relationships, we often get stuck in the same conflict cycles over and over again. The argument might pass, or seem to have been resolved in the short term, only to come back again another time.
Why? Because the issue has never been resolved, which means that there has never been true completion of the cycle.
Perhaps that’s because you avoid the real issue, or have a limited understanding of the true, underlying issue, or simply don’t know how to resolve it.
When we get stuck in repeat mode, it is because our Natural tendency is to replay cycles until they are completed. As we are Nature, we need complete cycles to function healthily. For example, early on in my nursing career I learnt the importance of healthy systems – cardiovascular, respiratory, renal, and so on. Any blockages in the internal physical cycles result in illness or death.
It is equally essential to the health of your relationship to be able to complete your conflict cycles.
In my Compassionate Conflict for Couples course, one of the first things you will learn about conflict is how to move towards a resolution of your underlying issues. This means you can complete your conflict cycles in a healthy way, and move forward in your relationship. You will gain a much greater understanding of yours and your partners triggers, and as you will understand each other’s needs more fully, resolving conflict becomes so much easier! And what’s more, you’ll be able to do this with compassion and understanding, forming a deeper connection as a result.
So if you would like to know more about the illuminating guidance that you can achieve through completing your conflict cycles, click the link below for more information.
Deepening your connection with Nature 🙂