When Did You Stop Playing???

We often hear about how important play is for a child’s development. It allows children to use their creativity while developing their imagination, dexterity, and physical, cognitive, and emotional strength. Play is important to healthy brain development. It is through play that children at a very early age engage and interact in the world around them. And when a child needs emotional or psychological support, for example for trauma, it is often resolved through Play Therapy.

But what about adults?

We reach a certain age, and play seems to be thought of as “not sensible”. We gain responsibilities, and as we do so, we stop playing. We don’t have time for it. We have “real issues” to deal with. We become more and more stressed about life. And we become stuck indoors behind computer screens, instead of being outside, running around and laughing, discharging all that pent up energy. I personally believe that the more adult responsibilities we take on, the more important play is!

We seem to have turned to “mindfulness” over the past few years, as a method of dealing with stress. Mindfulness is the practice of being present in the moment. Not worrying about the past which cannot be changed, or the future which hasn’t happened yet. Which can be incredibly helpful.

But play is just that. When you are playing, you are not doing it for a reason other than for the sake of playing, laughing, having fun. You can be completely immersed in what you are doing.

When did you last play? What did you do? What do you enjoy?

For me, I would hunt for Easter eggs, play hide and seek in the woods, and paint hollowed-out egg shells in the Spring. I loved lying on the grass, picking clovers, making fairy dresses out of leaves, and making daisy chains, rolling down a grassy hill, in the Summer. I loved kicking leaves and playing conkers in the Autumn. I loved snowball fights and making snowmen in the winter.

I still do all of this!

Krystal playing with her dog TheoAnd as I have grown up, I have added a few other things along the way. Water fights, mountain biking, fun runs, Five Rhythms Dance, play fighting with my dog, camping, making bonfires, playing the violin, making art, appreciating art…..play can be endless. It is just about enjoying doing something for its own sake.

With all the troubles in the world and pressures on relationships, playing with your partner can remind you of what being in a relationship can be all about. It can create new ways of being intimate with each other, and enjoying each others’ company.

Being grown-ups does not mean that we always have to take everything so seriously. Humour and play can really help to dissipate tension in a relationship. It means that you stop focusing on what isn’t going right, and on something positive instead.

If you can’t remember what you liked about play, think back to when you were a child, the things you used to enjoy. What did they involve?

Write a list. Share it with your partner. Ask them to do the same – you might remind each-other of long forgotten types of play. Find which types of play you had in common when you were young.

And then go and build that sandcastle or fort, fly that model plane or kite, and toast marshmallows over that bonfire.

And tell me all about what you did – I would love to know!!

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