We’re not so dissimilar.
There are times in our relationships is when we move towards each other, lighting each other up with shining joy. When we can bask in our romantic glow.
And there are times when one or both of us retreat, sinking down into ourselves, and sometimes into darkness.
At times this can be lonely, both for the one retreating and the one who feels left behind. It can lead to anxiety. Sometimes we will question our connection. Sometimes we will fight against it.
But this is a natural rhythm, which we see throughout Nature. There is no need to fight it.
After all, we cannot have Summer without Winter.
If you have a strong foundation for your relationship, you can accept your natural rhythms, and stay deeply anchored, like a waterlily.
If you feel that you need to build a stronger foundation, or understand each other’s natural rhythms more deeply and sensitively, then the best place to start is with communication. Effective communication is the bedrock of all successful relationships. This is where the Compassionate Conflict for Couples Course can help you. You will learn essential skills and techniques of effective communication, that will help you to understand each other, rather than assuming the worst and mis-interpreting each other. And once you have learned and felt for yourself the power of compassionate communication, the much deeper work can begin. Click on the link below to learn more.